Mum Rant: "What do you do all day?" Are you serious right now?

I haven't had one in awhile now but this one was very much needed. How can some people still think this way? insert Mum Rant!

Recently I met up with a friend for coffee and her friend was there too. I didn’t know this lady and I'm guessing that she doesn't have any mum friends because she said to me "I often wonder what Mums even do all day? I mean aren't you bored just doing house work and stuff?" I almost fell off my chair. Housework! I would love to have the time to do some housework I thought to myself. On the odd occasion that I do manage to put a load of washing out or vacuum my house I feel like it’s my achievement of the day but wait... Isn’t my achievement of my day keeping my tiny human alive?! Making sure he's, happy, fed, somewhat well rested and not stinky?

I naively thought that I’d have time to do stuff like that too. I thought my house would be sparkling and I’d have an empty laundry basket, dinner on the table and homemade snacks and baby food in the fridge- ha!! Now, don't get me wrong I have good days where I do those things but the majority of the time I’m too tired to fathom another load of washing. If I get my supermarket shopping done that's pretty great going for me ( last week I didn't and had to send a panicked SOS to my husband for formula).

I actually wanted to scream at this lady who clearly has no idea of the demands of mumlife! Doesn't she know how tired I am? Doesn't she know I’ve been up since 5:30 with an upset Baby? Doesn’t she know I have baby rice in my hair right now? How can she think I'm sitting around twiddling my thumbs?. Anyway I think a lot of people are naive about the demands of a new mum or any mum for that matter- I know I was!

So instead I just laughed it off and smiled saying ‘If only you knew!”

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