Mummy guilt and why you should NOT buy into it! #nomummyguilt

Since becoming a Mum I have been through some trying times. In fact even for this qualified and experienced Early Childhood teacher I have had days where I threw my hands up and wanted to cry.

Being a Mum is HARD!

It's so hard, it is the hardest job I've ever had and I'm still learning everyday on the job! Lately I've been reading a lot online about Mum's who feel guilty for their parenting decisions for whatever reason. Maybe you forgot to boil some pumpkin for their lunch so had to give them baby rice again (shock horror) or perhaps you are beating yourself up about not letting them sleep longer because you want to meet a friend for coffee (and end up feeling like you're such a bad Mum!)

One of my Dream catcher creations a made for a beauitful friend of mine. Also a good way to unwind after a tough day.

NEWSFLASH! No you're not! I have a lot of knowledge around educational psychology and philosophies after almost 9 years of teaching and I always thought that knowledge was power but now that I'm a Mum I honestly think that maybe too much information is just that... too much!

We all have these instincts built into us for a reason. The reason is because they are a great way to gauge our feelings and what our heart is telling us to do.

Heart led parenting is the road I've decided to travel along...

I think it has empowered me to not feel so bad about the decisions I make because ultimately we are all trying our best EVERYDAY! All we can ever do is what we believe is right in our heart of hearts.

My bubs trying his first ever solid food- Yep! he stole right out of my hand!

It's so easy to fall into this trap of feeling bad for whatever reason or another about a lot of your parenting decisions but I challenge you to instead feel ok about them. In fact why not instead feel good about them! We are all learning on this crazy train we call parenting and we are learning all of the time. I think as long as you continue to learn and grow from your mistakes then you are doing a fabulous job!

Trust in those instincts and become empowered to make decisions that 'feel right' instead of what some book thinks or some so called 'expert'... instead ask what do I think? and why?

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